The fear of not using your full potential or being afraid to look back at yourself in years time and regret not doing enough can sometimes cloud our mind. In fact, instead of motivating us it can negatively affect our self-esteem.
Never ending comparison of oneself to others must be one of the reasons why we fear underachieving. It is especially difficult to avoid constant comparison now when social media seem to drive most of our communication with people. We tend to judge ourselves and others based on what we see (I must note, see and not know) on their profiles. In many cases, we get so consumed by social media that our priorities and beliefs start shifting to completely new and different extremes. As a result, we start wishing not only to look a certain way (this deserves a separate blogpost) but also lead a certain lifestyle, seek a certain career path.
Before you even realize what is going on you have your mind racing:
I must use every possibility that comes my way to make the most of my time. I have to drop everything and go travel the world. Later I must start my own business, write a book and run a successful YouTube channel. It would be great if I could also occasionally give public speeches on international conventions across the globe, and on a day off develop an app which helps to find a mating partner for your dog in a 5 m radius around you.
Do you see where I am coming from?
I would lie if I said non of the above crossed my mind before. I would lie if I said I do not want to live a memorable life. However, being inspired to do things you wouldn’t normally do is a little bit different from becoming a complete stranger to yourself.
I know I am not going to climb the highest mountain and probably will never take an executive position in a company. I highly doubt I will sleep under the night sky in my sleeping bag somewhere on abandoned beach in South America. (unless there is no other way of course). It simply does not interest me, or at least not at the minute. I have different ways of doing things and I accept it. In the end, how can I regret not doing something I was not intending to do in the first place.
I have great plans for myself. I have even greater challenges planned for myself to take and I am sure I will get lazy or demotivated on my way getting there. I will also fail at times, and will see how great others are doing. Then I will go through agonizing frustration for not being good enough… And then I will ask myself if feeling this way changes anything. It doesn’t. If I truly want to achieve something, I am going to learn from my lows to reach my highs.
A fear of underachieving is unreasonable. I felt it, you felt it. But with all seriousness, let’s stop doing this to ourselves. The truth is, there always will be someone who is doing better than you, and you are doing something better than others. Be rational, give yourself a moment to be lazy. Then stand up, and do you!